🗣 Say this
"You snatched that from her. Let's give it back and ask properly. Can you say 'can I have a turn?'"
⏱ What to do
1
Step in quickly but calmly
2
Return the item to the other child first
3
Coach them to ask instead. keep it simple
4
Stay close to support rather than walking away
5
Praise any moment of waiting or asking nicely
⚠️ Avoid
❌Forcing a hug or sorry that isn't genuine
❌Long lectures about sharing while they're frustrated
❌Dismissing the other child's upset
❌Letting it go to keep the peace. It repeats
🔁 If they resist
"We're going to give that back and then ask. I'll help you."
→Coach the words 'can I have a turn?' then wait together
💡 Pro tip
Coach the ask, don't just correct the snatch
Instead of
"That was so naughty! Say sorry RIGHT now!"
Try
"Let's give that back. Now ask: 'can I have a turn when you're done?'"
Common questions
What should I say when my toddler snatches a toy?
Step in quickly and say: "You snatched that from her. Let's give it back and ask properly. Can you say 'can I have a turn?'" Return the item first, then coach the words. Keep it simple and stay close.
Why does my toddler snatch things from other children?
Impulse control is genuinely limited in toddlers. They see something they want and act immediately without the ability to pause, consider the other child's perspective, and choose a different approach. It's developmental, not malicious.
Should I force my toddler to say sorry after snatching?
A forced sorry with no understanding behind it doesn't build empathy. Coaching the practical next step, giving it back and asking for a turn, is more effective and more honest. Genuine sorry can come later when the moment is calm.
How do I teach my toddler not to snatch?
Coach the alternative every single time: return the item, ask for a turn. Stay close to intervene before snatching happens if you can see it building. Praise any moment of waiting or asking. The skill develops gradually with consistent coaching.