🗣 Say this
"It's tooth brushing time. Do you want to do it first or shall I do it first?"
⏱ What to do
1
Let them brush first. Then you do the 'grown-up' brush after
2
Make it quick. 2 minutes feels long, use a timer or song
3
Let them choose their toothbrush and toothpaste flavour
4
Stay consistent. Every night, no exceptions
5
If they clamp shut, stay calm and try again. Don't skip it
⚠️ Avoid
❌Skipping it to avoid the battle
❌Pinning them down without warning
❌Turning it into a lengthy negotiation
❌Bribing with sweet things
🔁 If they resist
"I'm going to brush your teeth now. Open wide, I'll be quick."
→Be efficient. The faster it's done the less resistance builds
💡 Pro tip
Let them go first, then you finish the job
Instead of
"Open your mouth RIGHT NOW or no story tonight!"
Try
"Your turn first!" (let them brush) "Now my turn to get the sneaky spots."
Common questions
What should I say when my toddler won't let me brush their teeth?
Say: "It's tooth brushing time. Do you want to do it first or shall I do it first?" Let them brush first, then you do the proper clean after. This gives them control while ensuring it actually gets done.
How do I brush my toddler's teeth when they refuse?
Let them go first with their own brush. Follow with your turn on the 'sneaky spots.' Use a timer, a song, or a character toothbrush. Be efficient once they're open. The longer it takes, the more resistance builds.
Why does my toddler refuse to brush their teeth?
Loss of control, sensory sensitivity to the brush or toothpaste, and simple resistance to transitions are the most common causes. Giving them the first turn and letting them choose their brush or flavour returns some control and typically reduces resistance.
Is it normal for toddlers to fight tooth brushing?
Very common. The physical sensation plus the loss of autonomy makes it a frequent battleground. Consistent routine, a choice within the non-negotiable, and keeping it short are what work over time.